They say that failures are experiences waiting to be learned. It’s hard to think of it that way when you’re losing money or a loved one in the process, but when you look back at it after a couple of months, you’ll realize that the experience changed you. Maybe it’s true that failures are avenues for learning, but what exactly are you supposed to learn?
How to Take Care of Yourself
You may not realize that you’re prioritizing everyone else but yourself, until you have to let go of those relationships and decide to give yourself a chance. At the end of the day, the most important person in your life should be you, and your decisions should reflect that. Whether it’s setting aside time for some pampering with sheet masks before bed, or choosing to eat healthy to have a better lifestyle, these conscious decisions teach you that you will only perform at your best if you’re happy from the attention you give yourself.
How to Say No
When you’re not putting yourself first, saying yes is easier because you don’t want to offend other people. Even when you feel uncomfortable, you keep it to yourself as long as everyone else will be happy. Then, something happens and you reach your limit, and you fail in something important because you said yes to something you didn’t want in the first place. Only after experiencing great failure do you learn to say no to protect your mental health and wellbeing.
How to Plan for the Future
Failures are results of plans that don’t happen exactly as you assumed they would. If it’s a particularly big failure, you may find yourself in financial trouble or even losing something important. This loss is hard to bear, but it will teach you about uncertainties. You’ll learn to always have a backup plan or a way out. Especially if you’re going to venture into a business with high risks, you don’t want to keep going until your bank account is zero. You’ll want to have an exit strategy and know when to implement it. With everything else in your life, failing can also teach you to be more open-minded not just in your actions, but also in your reactions.
How to Do Actual Self-care
There are self-care routines that are more a marketing strategy than an actual routine to help you relax and rejuvenate. Spas will tell you the ultimate spa weekend is the best form of self-care because it’s indulgent, but if your finances are telling you to say no, that’s not self-care at all. It’s just you giving into marketing tactics and peer pressure. When everyone else says you deserve a spa weekend, and they talk about the many ways it helped them de-stress, you start to think this is the only way. It takes failing to find out what works for you, even if it doesn’t work for others. Self-care is about the self–yourself–so do what makes you happy, even if it’s not indulgent by everyone else’s standards.
Failing sometimes teaches us the best life lessons. Learn to make better decisions about your life and yourself so that your failures don’t end up in nothing.